I have had several dear friends and family die over the years and I have attended several funerals. Some folks showed up at the funerals who, though nearby, never visited the dead for many years — for complicated reasons. Some folks showed up who disliked the deceased but felt socially obliged to appear. Some folks were dragged along as the spouse or children of those visiting. Point is, many these folks either don’t want to be there or are there for ulterior motives. But most of them will find something polite to say and not expose their real feelings about the deceased. Films have been made exposing this circus — one of my favorites by Osōshiki (“The Funeral”) a 1984 Japanese film. Can you think of others?
Christopher Hitchens has left us. He will be deeply missed. I heard some Christians today paying him “respect” saying they loved the fact that he was brave enough to say what he believed. Yet they also confessed that they believed that Christopher was now “burning in a lake of fire, or rotting in hell or some such horrible, well-deserved, tortuous penalty for his non-belief”. My question? Should they come to the funeral — or in this case, is it odd for them to be posting a few compliments of some aspect of Hitchens’ personality. Or, for reasons I allude to above, should they just stay away from the funeral. Are these social lies useful in greasing society or should someone yell out that the king has no clothes when this happens?