Grundy, over at Deity Shmeity, just posted an “interview” with me here. Addendum: So as not to lose the interview, I also include it below (in clearer format). Click “more” to see it.
Grundy looked over my blog and sent me some questions to answer. He’s done the same to several atheist bloggers. These “interviews” are a good way to learn about others and, wink, a good way to get readers to visit your blog.
Grundy, like me, uses an alias. And like me, he is also a former Christian believer — though a bit more cultic. He is a former Christian Scientist! Unfortunately, Grundy never took my advice to build a good About Page to tell us more about himself, so I can’t give a better intro. But with a face like that, can you blame him? 🙂
Please do visit Grundy’s site and say “Hi”.
Hey Grundy, thank you for this opportunity — even if for only one reader! 🙂
This religion stuff is so silly. All my friends think it is bizarre that I keep writing about it — and they are right. The web has helped those of us who are still obsessed with religion to find each other and feel “normal”. What a joke! But such is the nature of religions, they grab us. For atheists who were former believers, we still want to talk through it. For atheists who never were religious, they want to rant against it. I guess I do both. But I have found that religious think exists even in secular minds.
I apologize ahead of time to all the hyperlinks, and doubt people will read them, but many of your questions need deeper elaboration to be in the least bit understandable to those who intuitively or emotionally disagree with my positions. I encourage anyone who reads a link to comment on the post — I keep all posts active and will respond. Indeed, I structured my blog as a repository of answers to common questions. It saves me time on threads. So now, to answer your personalized questions:
Grundy: 1. On your blog, you use the pseudonym Sabio Lantz to, in your words, protect your professional and personal relations. What do you expect would change if you went public with your real name? (I’m obviously not judging, I also use a pseudonym.) What is your advice for other atheists who are unsure if they should conceal this aspect of their identity or embrace it publicly?
Sabio: As you know, Religionists look upon Atheists with great disgust (see here). I have significant personal experience with Christian bigotry both as a victimizer and a victim. I’ve written here and here of incidences where I lost (or almost lost) jobs because Christians were disgusted by this atheist. Also, my children have lost many new friends over the years when their parents found that our family were not believers. And as a former Christian, I unfortunately totally understand why believers do this.
I work in medicine and most of my patients are very web savvy. They not only look up information on their health but also pull up info on their medical providers. So I need to be careful because the overwhelming majority of my patients are Christian. Even at my place of employment I am careful about how I say things in our Christian dominated milieu. If my colleagues could easily find my on-line writings —and they would— it could present unnecessary challenges at my work place and possibly threaten to my livelihood and well-being.
My advice to other atheists on this issue is that they be simultaneously cautious and brave. Religious folks can be dangerous. A good balance between being quiet about your beliefs or out-front about them comes from wisdom and luck — and I wish them much of both. The answers will be different for everyone. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I have made many mistakes and hope others don’t make as many as I have.
2-3: Banned by Anti-Religion Atheists
Grundy: (2) You have mentioned that you’ve been banned from atheist sites in the past. What were the events that lead to this action? When your beliefs cause you to dissent from the common atheist worldview, how do you find the atheist reaction? What do you think can be done to keep free thinking at the valued over a pressure to conform to the beliefs held by the more prominent atheists?
Grundy: (3) According to your “Share Thyself” (I’ll link to this) table, you list your ontology as naturalist, yet your posts are often sympathetic of the supernatural, especially those that share mystical experiences. How do you reconcile naturalism while leaving the door open for something more?
Sabio: I must start this reply by saying that I have also been banned on several religious sites, but I am sure your readers can imagine why. But it is odd to be banned by atheists. Banning because of violations of commenting policies is one thing. And indeed, based on my comment policy, I have banned one or two atheists who made personal attacks on my site.
Atheists come in all stripes. Sure, we all share several traits: not believing in gods and valuing empirical evidence more highly than anecdotal subjective evidence are the two that come to mind. But short of those, differences abound — and thus the difficulties of an “atheist community”. We all have different temperaments, religious backgrounds, political alliances and philosophical positions. Mostly, we all have different experiences. All these differences have caused me trouble with other atheists who expect more uniformity.
Put simply, many blogging atheists are so angry with the religions that they are familiar with, that they detest when I point out when they overgeneralize about “religions”. These anti-Anti-religion atheists seem to prefer the echo-chamber of the back-slapping buddies in their comment threads. When I question the over-reach of these atheists’ claims and challenge their self-righteous hyper-rationality, they usually counter with ad hominem attacks and eventual banning. Most of these atheists are more interested in rhetorical lambasting of religion than they are in careful analysis. They will spare nothing to attack religion — including, ironically, their rationality.
The solution: I think we will always have these sorts of personalities — both in religious and atheist circles. This sort of personality is difficult to change. Probably the best way to change each other is by in-person meetings and not on the web where our social skills are not activated in the same way as they are in face-to-face encounters. That said, most atheists I deal with are delightful, but blogging draws disproportionately from the angry, cloudy-thinking sort. In your comments, I will let those who dislike me tell you their version —why they really dislike me. I am sure their evaluation will be far less glorious, for we are always the hero in our own stories — and I am sure I am no different.
4: My Supernatural Experiences
Grundy: (4) Like you, I’m a father of a boy and girl. I’m always interested in how fellow atheists approach teaching the concept of religion to their children. What do you tell them about God, if anything? Do you have any tips for me?
Sabio: As I have posted here, I have had, and continue to have, many very odd experiences. Though I use to , I no longer don’t believe in the supernatural, but I also don’t think that just because I have these experiences that I am deluded, silly, weak or stupid. Some of them are indeed tough to explain.
Many atheist have never had these sort of experiences and look down on those who do. I actually feel a bit sorry for these folks because such experiences are fascinating!
So my goal in sharing my “supernatural” experiences is to loosen Atheist distain for those who claim such experiences. But likewise, I am trying to show theists that even atheists have these experiences and that we can interpret them in naturalistic ways or at least not jump to the supernatural. I try to show that supernatural experiences, no matter how strange, are probably more natural than our minds try to tell us they are.
5: Raising Atheist Children
Grundy: (5) Like you, I’m a father of a boy and girl. I’m always interested in how fellow atheists approach teaching the concept of religion to their children. What do you tell them about God, if anything? Do you have any tips for me?
Sabio: My wife, like you Grundy, was raised Catholic and was far more bitter about religion than I was — I have softened her over the years as she has observed more benign forms of religion. Several of my atheist friends have taken their kids to local churches so they fit in and can learn about religion and then choose on their own when they grow up. We have opted to not play that game — but if played well, I do think it can be an OK option.
Since I have lived all over the world, I read my kids stories from many religious traditions and try to make it clear that all religions have silly ideas but that they all can carry great morals and ideals within their mythology. Nowadays, I don’t read books to my teenagers but I point out and discuss stupid, bigoted religious beliefs as they pop up in the news. We also discuss the bigotry they feel from religious kids in their schools. But I don’t care if my children grow up religious, I just don’t want them embracing a non-inclusive flavor of any religion, but otherwise, I don’t care. Instead, I care that I maintain a close, affectionate, supportive relationship with my children if I can. That is a challenge for all of us, no matter how we raise our children. I have no advice on this, however, because I am never sure I am doing the “right” thing. 🙂
6: Benefits of Religion
Grundy: (6) As atheists, we often talk about the harm caused by religion. What do you see as the primary benefit of religion, if any?
Sabio: “Religion” is a broad fuzzy term, even if anti-religion atheists or even religionists try tell us they know the true definition. Nonetheless, using that broad notion we can see philanthropy, social care networks, psychological comfort and many more potential benefits of religions. There is no one “primary” benefit, there are lots of different potential benefits. As for the potential harms, they are clear to all of us. I wrote a post here that attempts to show a more sophisticated way to evaluate harm vs. benefit in religion. You may enjoy the diagram.
A favorite mantra of anti-religion atheists is that “the harm of religion far outweighs any good”. First, ironically, these self-proclaimed gloriously-rational atheists are making an empirical claim without evidence and without any way to clearly test their pseudo-science claim. Secondly, their claim is based on their own very simple view of “religion”, but that is a long conversation.
Would we be better without religion? Well, not if it meant everyone would instantly be turned into the nasty sort of atheists. Being a good person is not dependent on being atheist vs. theist and I only care about good people. Grundy, your blog’s subtitle is cute and clever: “One Day we’ll all be atheists, I’m just an early adapter”, but I don’t think religion (or things like it) will ever disappear — so I am for always improving religion for those who are unable to leave it. I think theists can improve their theism to be more inclusive and kinder. For example, see my post on “My Favorite Kind of Christians”. Likewise I think atheists can improve their worldviews. Hell, we can all improve ourselves.
7. Believing in God Again?
Grundy: (7) Is there anything that would once again convince you that there is a god? If so, provide an example.
Sabio: Probably like many atheists, for me to again believe in a theist god, it would take amazing, overwhelming evidence. After all, the theist God is suppose to be all-powerful, all-caring, all-knowing, personal and interventional, so evidence for such a being should be able to blast us out of the water with clear evidence. The story books tell us that once God did give amazing signs and wonders, but that was before there were cameras, recorders and such. But I am open to have my opinion changed yet again. For if nothing else in my life, I am a master of embracing ridiculous beliefs. Se my post: “Confession Tales”.
But re-embracing God would be difficult. For as my post call “The God Switch is Off” shows, there are several obstacles to my believing again.
In my post, “Most Christian’s Don’t Believe”, I again try to illustrate that “religion” is something much different than the mere declaration of supposed doctrinal truths that many religion-is-evil atheists try to maintain. With that in mind, my post on “A God I could Believe In”, tries to get behind the word “god” to show the complexity of how religious people hold their beliefs.
So, sure, in some kind of highly qualified way I believe in “God” today. Heck, in my post “Monkey Religion vs Cat Religion” I try to show theists that there are many versions of “God”. The monkey religion version is still one that my mind has echoing about without much cognitive dissonance. To understand that sentence, the reader will have to understand my view of “Many Selves”.
As this post illustrates, my atheism is an accidental epiphenomenon.
Thank you for the invite to write out replies to your questions. I never dreamed I would spend so much time addressing atheist’s opinions of me. I thought my insights and opinions were fairly bland and uncontroversial among atheists until I started blogging. My blogs is full of posts pointing out the problems with theism, atheism, buddhism, hinduism and myself. For indeed, nothing should be sacred!